All consuming ... reality television is taking over our lives.

I despise Masterchef. Phew, it’s good to say that publicly. I hate it not because it is bad television – that’s a matter of taste – but because each week more than 1.5 million Australians watch people they don’t really care about working their patooties off trying to make their dreams come true. The result? Another 10 hours wasted (multiplied by 1.5 million) that these viewers could have spent… (read more at) http://www.smh.com.au/opinion/society-and-culture/lifes-too-short-for-reality-tv-20110707-1h4or.html#ixzz1RSZJPLNN

 

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In advertising there’s a thing called a ‘torture test’ where you take a product’s most important feature – it’s ‘unique selling proposition’ – and demonstrate it to the nth degree. SUVs drive up mountains, the Duracell bunny climbs sheer cliffs, and cleaning sprays spruce up a kitchen after a teenage boy has had his mates round for a massive bender.

I mention this up to explain why I learnt so much about life and work from co-authoring my latest book, What I Wish I Knew about Nursing. This wonderful profession is one big torture test. I reckon if we can’t learn something about how to work, live and love better from speaking to people who bring their heart and soul to their job – and face life or death decision every single day – then we’re just not trying.

There are so many lessons in this book that are applicable to all of us, but I’m going to put down the most obvious 5 of them over the next 3 weeks so you’ll hopefully gain as much admiration for these wonderful, big hearted people as I did.

1. Never lose your sense of humour

Nancy Fontaine, 45, Professor of Nursing, spent 18 years as an emergency nurse and remembers many occasions where she used humour to help her team. Like one time when she was in the middle of chest compressions, resuscitating a patient, when a man – who had earlier been admitted with a pear inserted where no one should ever insert a pear – entered the room, having removed the piece of fruit himself. The man interrupted proceedings and blurted out ‘What should I do with this?’ Nancy said ‘I looked up from my chest compressions and said, “Stuff it with sultanas, bake it in port and top it off with cream.” The team were in hysterics but we all continued resuscitating the patient while “Pear Man” was removed by security.

Nancy’s quote for What I Wish I Knew about Nursing is

It is vital to openly encourage teams to use humour to cope with tragedy and sadness. Humour is actually a very serious business which permits nursing to erode the archaic façade of professional detachment, forms deep bonds and creates a choreographed evasion of harrowing situations so that the focus is provision of life saving interventions for patients. I believe it must be celebrated as an acceptable and appropriate mechanism to cope and care simultaneously.

Coming back to the idea of a torture test, next time you can’t keep your sense of humour because the office fax has packed it in again, take two big deep breaths and say to yourself “Well, at least while I’m trying to fix this machine I know I won’t be hassled by an idiot who loves pears a little too much.”

What I Wish I Knew about Nursing is a book I co-authored with my wife, Allie, who is a Registered Nurse. (Of course when I say ‘co-authored’ I mean Allie thought of the idea, pitched it at Royal College of Nursing, Australia, got them on board, did all the interviews, and wrote the book. But I did proof read the whole thing twice. (Okay, ran spell check.)

It’s available from our website, and from the RCNA

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3 Secrets to Being Happy at Work – SMH Article

June 19, 2011

Without blowing too much smoke up my own patootie, I’m pretty please with this article in the Herald today on loving your work. Click on the image to see a pdf open up in your browser, hope you get something out of it. 

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Are you afraid? Or is it just ‘Newfeeling’?

June 15, 2011

Thanks to our evolution, and our physiology, there’s no way to avoid that big burst of adrenaline yo get when you try something different. But you can change how you interpret it. The first thing to do is change how you describe it because in English the only words for ‘that big burst of adrenaline [...]

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Scared of money troubles, physical pain or standing up in front of a crowd?

June 13, 2011

As you’ll know by now I don’t use this thing to promote stuff very often, so when I do you’ll appreciate that it’s got to be really good (or have some enormous financial windfall to me.) I’m going to do my regular entry later this week, but hot of the virtual presses is a great [...]

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Mother’s Day when you’ve lost your mum?

May 13, 2011

I can’t stop grinning, read on. Here is Al Callaghan’s page from my Mumhood book. And here’s the email I got from Al earlier. Hi Marty I got my very specially signed book today – THANK YOU. As you know we lost Mum only 3 weeks after my first child, Lucy, was born. Well with Mother’s [...]

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Why your mum is so extraordinary

May 10, 2011

I’m the type of self-important tosser who refuses to buy flowers for my wife on Valentine’s Day, but will leap in the front door a week before, or a week after, just to show that “I won’t be told when I show my wife I love her.” So, rather than cash in on the goodwill [...]

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What I Wish I Knew about Being a Better Dad

April 14, 2011

Firstly let me apologise for such a long break. I had this bloke working on my blog and website who said “It’ll be ready in a fortnight”. And he kept saying it for about two months. Anyhoo, it’s all up and running so please have a look around. The other big news is my new [...]

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December 14, 2010

Hi All, In the fine tradition of What I Wish I Knew, my wonderful missus, Allie, gave me this fantastic card for my birthday today. (43, you cheeky thing for even asking!) On the inside it said “Thanks goodness we all get better with age.” I can’t stop wondering what Bill & Hillary would say [...]

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What I Wish I Knew about Cancer: Part Ii

December 6, 2010

I’ve finished my interviews for the Cancer book now, and there are some heavy and yet wonderful chats are ‘in the can.’ (That can’t be the right expression, but there you go.) Talking with these amazing people has led me to be incredibly grateful for how ridiculously lucky I, and my whole extended family, have [...]

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